Let’s talk about love. Love, sweet love. Because how can we talk about grief without naming what came first? Love is what got us into this whole mess. It will help lead us out. Love is the cause and the cure, and the warm-beating heart of our humanity no matter what form it takes.
There’s the whisper softly in the night love. Rush to your petrified child kind of love. Pouring over a project love. Fumbling and stumbling over words love. The rare shout it from the rooftops love. What about the reckless love that scars, and the wild love that’s fleet of foot. There is also old love, and new love and selfless love and self-love.
Love is an unrelenting force. The heart yearns for it. That is why losing a loved one is so hard. All that energy we’ve channeled into another person through our thoughts, time and care, still exists. That’s why we’re struggling, my friends. We’re searching for a new place for all this displaced energy. Like pure energy itself, love is neither created nor destroyed, it can only change from one form into another.
Jamie Anderson said it beautifully in her blog, “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
There are so many places to place all your love, though: inward, outward, and all around. Your heart is the 11-ounce guide that will lead the way. Listen to it, my friends, so that all this love with no place to go can find new homes.
~Robynne Boyd, Goodgrief App Co-founder